It’s February 26 and I’m writing a post semi-related to Valentine’s Day.
BREAKING ALL THE RULEZ!
Let’s get down to business…(to defeat…the Hunnssss)
I think it’s a fairly common misconception that single women are perpetually lonely. When people ask me about my love life and I respond with, “I don’t have one,” approximately 94.3% of the time they will follow up with a version of, “Ooo are you okay? Are you lonely?”
No. I’m not lonely. And here’s why:
I have AWESOME friends. Both male and female.
On February 13th, some of my lady friends and I got together for the 2nd (hopefully annual) Galentine’s Day celebration. (We copied the idea from the television show Parks & Recreation. You should go watch it then we’ll be friends for lyfe.)
We got together at a restaurant and just spent time together being friends. In fact, some of us stayed there for 3 1/2 hours. That’s how much we like each other.
I have another friend that knows me so well, she can tell what kind of mood I’m in based on my text message responses.
I have other friends that bought me a bacon shaped bag clip and a Civil War history book as Christmas/birthday gifts.
These people have celebrated with me in the highs, and they have weeped with me in the lows. These people know me. They know me because about 4 years ago I realized how easy it is to fall into the misconception of loneliness just because I’m single, and it doesn’t lead to a pretty place.
I’ve realized that friendship is EXTREMELY (and I can’t stress extremely enough) important. The significance of having people in my life that know me deeply is something I find hard to put in to words.
In the second chapter of the entire Bible, God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone.” We were created for relationship. We were created to know and be known by others. The desire to be connected with those around us has been with us for a very long time.
Just because I’m single doesn’t mean I’m lonely, but it would be easy for me to fall in to that. Luckily the Lord has placed some amazing people in my life to keep me from falling in to that loneliness. For a period of my life I specifically prayed for God to bring solid women into my life that love Jesus, and He faithfully answered that. One by one, people started coming in to my life that won’t be leaving any time soon.
Do I sometimes feel lonely? Yes. But does loneliness consume my life? No. Because I’ve got my Galentines.