First off, if you get the movie reference in the title, we will be good friends.
Secondly, marriage isn’t exactly what brings us together today. Singleness is.
So, why write about singleness? Because that’s what I am. I’m a single person. And I want to talk about it. I don’t want to talk about how hard it is being single. I don’t want to talk about how this is just a season for God to prepare me to be the wife I’m meant to be. I don’t want to talk about how I’m so young and God will bring the right man along that’ll be my knight in shining armor of God (Ephesians 6 anyone?!).
I want to talk about how we, as followers of Christ, can build our identity in Jesus as single people simply because we want Jesus.
Too often I hear people, especially young women, discuss this idea that once we get our lives right with Jesus, He’ll bring the right man along. Heck, I used to be (and sometimes still can be) that girl. And while there’s truth to that–that we need to be content in Christ–marriage/a relationship shouldn’t be the goal of that contentment. Going to Jesus shouldn’t be a method of meeting my husband. Going to Jesus should be for Jesus and Him only.
If you’re reading this and I’ve had a conversation with you about “falling in love with Jesus before I fall in love with a man,” please hear me out through this journey. My goal isn’t to judge or make others feel inferior because of their desires for a relationship or marriage. My goal is open up a discussion on what it really means to fall in love with Jesus. Period.
I’ve got some (hopefully) fun stories lined up about how I’ve tried to wade through being single and dating and all that comes with that. Whether you’re single like me, dating, engaged, or married, I hope you’ll join in the conversation. Disagree with me. Challenge me. Give me a virtual high-five if you feel like it.
Let’s have a not so regular (ie: irregular…like the blog tagline…get it?!) discussion on our marital status.
Kayla Smith 
So excited to see you blogging! You have a great point here and guess what? The marriage book Jeremy and I are reading right now is reminding us that your spouse can never fill that hole in your heart like Jesus. Period. And if you try to make ’em, your marriage will be unfullfilling in the least. So see! It stays the same! You are so smart and wise. You should blog or something. … 😉
I wholeheartedly agree, which is why the “singles’ ministries” of most churches is a huge disappointment! There is nothing for single people once they *reach* the content-and-in-love-with-Jesus stage! I look forward to reading more, Kayla!
I love seeing you in the blogosphere Kayla! And what a fun-yet serious-topic of conversation. There is a lot of truth here in this post. We are reading a book on marriage right now (The Meaning of Marriage by Tim Keller) and the main point thus far is that if you expect anyone other than Jesus to meet your needs, your marriage is going to be unfulfilling at a minimum. So whether married or single, we should all be fully committed to our relationship with God. Regardless of marital status, that is the constant key to success! You are so wise!
Great start on sharing a needed conversations
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